Sikhi Beyond the unshorn hair

Sikh by definition is follower of light, when Baba Nanak Dev ji laid the foundation of Sikhi then it was more to do with equality, purity and peace which is apparent with the stress he has laid on common kitchen and the practice of Langar. When Guru Gobind Singh Ji formed Khalsa Panth, then my lord created a warrior race with a lifestyle of having accepted the almighty natural creation by keeping the unshorn hair, doing paathh, not indulging into fornication etc.
As a result we adapted a pulchritude which is different from others. I believe the reason behind all this was ignoring the physical beauty as it is corporeal and keeping it intact as blessed by the all mighty, not to be different from others. But Sikhs largely consider themselves different from others, they want separate acknowledgement on a piece of paper which when denied is being taken as disrespect. I strongly believe that the path directed by our Gurus is so noble that a trifle acknowledgement will not even minutely affect its sanctity. But, it is an overt fact that Sikhs want to be different they don't take their pulchritude as a symbol of purity, majority take it as pride, as power. The values imbibed particularly in the young generation is not beyond keeping unshorn hair and keeping a pagdi. Punjabis consider going on a booze binge as a matter of pride. I have never had alcohol in my life and people question me," tu sardar hoke daru nahi peeta?" Showing off financial muscle is a trend these days . There is maximum amount profligation in Punjab. This is even applicable to the gurudwaras . In Raipur within a radius of 2 Kms there are three sprawling Gurudwaras, one with a gold plated palki Sahib worth Rs. 30 lakhs. Does my Guru Granth Sahib derive Guru's pride through this show off. Can't that money be used in some more noble cause like schools for underpriveledged children , drug rehabilitaion centres ?
Perhaps the most misunderstood and to me disrespected aspect of Sikhism is the way our Khanda Sahib has been projected. The symbol actually means Deg-teg-fateh. Quoting from Wikipedia.org-

The emblem of Sikhism represents the Deg (cauldron or kettle) used to prepare food, Guru ka Langar initiated by the founder of the Sikh faith, Guru Nanak to remove caste barriers, teach people equality and humility before each other and to feed all and sundry on an egalitarian base so that no body sleeps with an empty stomach.

The two swords on the outside represent the Miri--Piri (Bhagti and Shakti) doctrine of Sikhism, revealed by Guru Nanak and put into practice by his sixth successor, Guru Hargobind indicating the integration of spiritual and temporal powers together and not treating them as two separate and distinct entities.

In the center is the Khanda, the double-edged sword, used by the tenth Guru, Guru Gobind Singh to prepare Amrit to initiate the Sikhs. Khanda has cutting edge on both sides indicative of two swords fused together representing Bhagti and Shakti (spiritual and temporal powers), giving birth to “The Khalsa”, who is a saint-soldier (Sant-Sipahi), the saint meaning scholarly in knowledge of Gurbani and soldier meaning martial in spirit.

I question how many actually take Khanda Sahib as that. We just brandish it on our swanky cars and bunglows, have we imbibed the ideology behind it? We DEMAND respect from others, have we respected ourselves?
I strongly believe the onus is upon the opinion leaders, the supreme bodies that is the gurudwaras to modify our approach towards preaching our religion. People sit in the Gurudwara listening to Bani without understanding a word of it. Gyanis come from all over the country, preach keeping unshorn beard, consider it synonymous to Lions and tigers, mostly don't preach tolerance, peace, a straight edge life style, respect particularly the men for women, love for other religions, contribution beyond the gurudwara compound. This is high time we modify our approach towards sikh lifestyle. Our Gurus wanted us to be spiritual and neglect the material and physical creation, but today many are bothered not beyond that. They wanted us to protect those who need protection, to work for the society, to ensure brotherhood, they definitely not wanted us to show off our gift, our muscle, they definitely not wanted us to take worthless pride in our physical assets. Beard signifies purity and acceptance of the creation of the all mighty, not some lion or tiger and any carnivore animal know for its superior strength and dominance over others. Sikhi is beyond the unshorn hair but Kesh became a propaganda for it that too a misunderstood one. I hope that if my ideology is right then my message reaches to the people who can bring change.
Reading it again before posting I find the tone somewhat general. If you don't agree with me then trust me I will be happy rather delighted to be proven wrong.
Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki fateh.